It's that wonderful time of year! The decorations are going up, Christmas music is playing and everyone is getting into that holiday spirit! Not so fast, for many high school seniors this can be a particularly stressful time. Many of them have submitted Early Action college applications and are on pins and needles waiting to hear if they have been accepted to their dream school. Some students will be working on college applications over the Christmas holidays while still some students are completely unsure as to what their post secondary plans will include. What's a parent, grandparent, aunt or well meaning relative to do?
My first piece of advice is to not ask the dreaded questions "Have you heard from x,y or z college yet? or Have you finished your application to x,y or z college yet?" Trust me, if they have, they will let you know.
This is the time to provide unwavering support and keep their spirits up. Try to engage them in conversations that don't involve said colleges. "Have you seen the most recent episode of Riverdale?" I really loved your last Instagram post!" What music are you listening to these days?"
Let them know that you are there to listen. If they bring up their concerns or anxiety be patient and available. As adults we want to fix the problems for our children and grandchildren but during this tumultuous time we need to empower them to make their own decisions.
Let the holidays be a time of reconnecting as a family and letting your Seniors know that they have your complete support!